Sunday, December 17, 2017

Suggestions To Help Children Cope With Divorce


  • Don't pump the children for information about the other parent.
  • Don't try to control the other parent.
  • Don't use the children to carry messages back and forth.
  • Don't argue in front of the children.
  • Don't discuss child support issues with the children.
  • Don't speak negatively about the other parent.
  • Don't put the children in the position of having to take sides.
  • Don't use the children as pawns to hurt the other parent.
  • Do tell the children about the divorce together, if possible.
  • Answer the children's questions honestly while avoiding unnecessary details.
  • Reassure the children that they are not to blame for the divorce.
  • Tell the children that they are loved and that they will be taken care of.
  • Include the other parent in school and other activities.
  • Encourage the relationship between the child and the other parent.
  • Be consistent and be on time to pick up and return the child.
  • Develop a workable parenting plan that gives the children access to both parents.
  • Guard against canceling plans with the children.
  • Establish two homes for the children with two fully involved parents.
  • Give the children permission to have a loving, satisfying relationship with the other parent.